The New York Times had an article in this past Sunday’s edition with the title The Downside of Cohabitation. It is definitely worth a read. Here are some quotes from the article:
Women are more likely to view cohabitation as a step toward marriage, while men are more likely to see it as a way to test a relationship or postpone commitment, and this gender asymmetry is associated with negative interactions and lower levels of commitment even after the relationship progresses to marriage. One thing men and women do agree on, however, is that their standards for a live-in partner are lower than they are for a spouse.
Jennifer, a woman who was deceived by the culture and bought in to The Lie that cohabitation was the new best thing for her relationship, lived with her boyfriend for four years before they got married. Their marriage lasted shorter than it took to plan the wedding. Here is her lamentable experience:
Jennifer said she never really felt that her boyfriend was committed to her. “I felt like I was on this multiyear, never-ending audition to be his wife,” she said. “We had all this furniture. We had our dogs and all the same friends. It just made it really, really difficult to break up. Then it was like we got married because we were living together once we got into our 30s.”
The conclusion? Maybe the teachings of the Church on marriage aren’t as ‘irrelevant and outdated’ as some try to posit. Christians should not budge an inch off of what is orthodox in response to culture ‘norms.’ What is vogue today will be passé tomorrow,
…but the Word of the Lord stands forever.
1 Peter 1:25